one of my hypothesis is that the perfectionism wich is combined with this disorder cause them want the relation ship in the best possible way... so magic... soooooooooooo idealistic... so perfect.. it causes them to specify huge amount of energy to manage the relationship... responsibility, perfectionism, and need to control, hypersensitivity, alltoghether (and some other unknown factors) cause them to show anxious attachment style....
on the other hand their childhood experiences cause them to think that they are tiring the other one by this kind of attachment.. permenant monitoring ....so they try to inhibit themselves.. try to hide allllllll of their fears..... and their harm avoidance cause them to go backward in the relationship and become avoidant. then what is the out come???????????
ya!! u are right...
avoidance+ anxious attachment style may form a new type of attachment: ambivalent!!!
and of course this type may bother any boday.....
a one who is sooooooooooo caring becomes avoidant suddenly...
what happens next?
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Wednesday, May 4, 2011
from now on...the diaries of a person with OCD/OCPD
HI
IT WAS FOR SOME TIME I WAS ABSENT AS I WAS PRACTICING MY THESIS SUBJECT!!!!
BEING INVOLVED IN AN INTIMATE RELATION SHIP....
HAVE U EVER SEEN A PERSON WITH OCD WHO IS IN A CLOSE RELATIONSHIP? WHAT DO THINK OF IT? OH... EVEN I WANT TO ASK THAT WHETHER U HAVE HAD EXPERIENCED BEING IN CLOSE RELATION SHIP WITH SUCH KIND OF PERSON?
... AS A PERSON WHO ASKS THIS QUESTION HERE AND THERE... THE MOST FREQUENT ANSWER IS: HEY... CAN THEY START AND INVOLVE IN SUCH KIND OF RELATIONS?
OH... THEY ARE NOT INTERESTED IN GETTING CLOSE TO PEOPLE...MOST OF THEM R SHOCKED WHEN O TELL THEM THAT A CLOSE CONNECTION MEANS ALOOOOOOOOOT TO AN OCD/OCPD ... THAT MUCH THAT IT MAY CAUSE THEM TO BE AFRAID OF ENTERING IT WITH THE FEAR OF NOT BEING ABLE TO AFFORD IT...
LAST YEAR TWO OF MY FRIENDS WITH OCPD DIVORCED... ONE OF THEM WITH OBSESSIONS GOT DEPRESSED.. THE OTHER ONE SAID THAT HE WONT CONTIUE BEING IN THIS RELATION ANY MORE.../
AND HOW ABOUT MYSELF...
???
DONT WAIT ANYMORE!!! IT'S SECRET...
I AM GOING TO TELL THE STORY OF THESE PEOPLE IN THIS WEBLOG FROM NOW ON... HOPE U LIKE IT ... HOPE U HELP ME TO ENRICH THIS STORY WITH YOUR EXPRIENCES... SO PLEAAAAAAAAAAAASE INTRODUCE ME IF U KNOW A PERSON WITH OCD/ OCPD WHO WISHES TO SHARE HER EXPRIENCES WITH ME...
IT WAS FOR SOME TIME I WAS ABSENT AS I WAS PRACTICING MY THESIS SUBJECT!!!!
BEING INVOLVED IN AN INTIMATE RELATION SHIP....
HAVE U EVER SEEN A PERSON WITH OCD WHO IS IN A CLOSE RELATIONSHIP? WHAT DO THINK OF IT? OH... EVEN I WANT TO ASK THAT WHETHER U HAVE HAD EXPERIENCED BEING IN CLOSE RELATION SHIP WITH SUCH KIND OF PERSON?
... AS A PERSON WHO ASKS THIS QUESTION HERE AND THERE... THE MOST FREQUENT ANSWER IS: HEY... CAN THEY START AND INVOLVE IN SUCH KIND OF RELATIONS?
OH... THEY ARE NOT INTERESTED IN GETTING CLOSE TO PEOPLE...MOST OF THEM R SHOCKED WHEN O TELL THEM THAT A CLOSE CONNECTION MEANS ALOOOOOOOOOT TO AN OCD/OCPD ... THAT MUCH THAT IT MAY CAUSE THEM TO BE AFRAID OF ENTERING IT WITH THE FEAR OF NOT BEING ABLE TO AFFORD IT...
LAST YEAR TWO OF MY FRIENDS WITH OCPD DIVORCED... ONE OF THEM WITH OBSESSIONS GOT DEPRESSED.. THE OTHER ONE SAID THAT HE WONT CONTIUE BEING IN THIS RELATION ANY MORE.../
AND HOW ABOUT MYSELF...
???
DONT WAIT ANYMORE!!! IT'S SECRET...
I AM GOING TO TELL THE STORY OF THESE PEOPLE IN THIS WEBLOG FROM NOW ON... HOPE U LIKE IT ... HOPE U HELP ME TO ENRICH THIS STORY WITH YOUR EXPRIENCES... SO PLEAAAAAAAAAAAASE INTRODUCE ME IF U KNOW A PERSON WITH OCD/ OCPD WHO WISHES TO SHARE HER EXPRIENCES WITH ME...
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